I recently facilitated a constellation workshop and was once again struck by how often the issues brought to the day shared remarkable similarities, but I realised that this isn’t unusual!

Beautifully explained by Bibi Schreuder in her recent blog, she says that questions asked at a constellation are not just the enquirer’s individual question but turn out to be related to other people’s.

What I witness time and again is the moment of recognition of this in participants—the quiet realisation that “I know this.” It may come through a subtle shift in posture, a small smile, a raised eyebrow, a nod, or a gentle leaning forward or back. These simple bodily movements signal an inner acknowledgement: this issue is familiar. And with that, comes permission to explore it from a new, often deeper, perspective.

In my experience, the question that brings someone to a constellation is never really the question. It’s usually what the logical mind thinks it needs to know. The real power of a constellation lies in its ability to bypass the narrative—the “story”—and connect us with a felt sense of knowing. In that space, hidden dynamics, patterns, and beliefs that keep us stuck can finally come into view and can be explored from a fresh perspective.